My father, Rodolfo Depaudhon. Taken on the day before he got his attack that caused his death on February 11, 2009!
Papa was my first dance on my debut. My first and last dance with him.
A father is the first man that every girl gets to meet. Unfortunately, most girls do not have an intimate relationship with their fathers unlike with their mothers. This maybe because of gender differences and stereotyped stories of most fathers' infidelity, which dislocates their good impression on people. But if you just give time to be with him, you will find out that having a father as your friend is better than flirting with useless boys around.
One thing that most girls love is shopping. You may think that fathers are not capable of going shopping with you, but you are wrong. It turns out that they know better than you do. They can pick out good clothes that will look good on you, in a way that you will be neither outdated nor indecent. As a guy, they know how a girl will look their best.
Most girls are defeated by boys in sports, and in math. But that never happens to daddy's little girls. Playing sports like badminton, basketball, or even chess is a good way of spending time with fathers. These activities not only enhance our athletic abbilities but also give us time to communicate and share experiences. They do not teach us how to win but how to play the game.
One thing I have commonly observed among fathers is their delicious cooking. I ussually boast about my father's extremely mouth-watering meals. He cooks the best adobo and many other foods in the world. Fathers naturally nurture us with love and fresh cooked meals from their heart.
As I grow older, we spend less time with each other, but I make sure that we can have short random chats every time. I have learned much of him from our daily conversations. I realized that he is noty as uptight as I thought, but just demands respect and proper etiquette. He is not also unreasonable, I only needed time to figure out his reasons. And most of all, being conservative is not as plain and dull as I thought because a simple lifestyle is already enough for a happy life. Some fathers may also be the same; it just takes a little step to meet them half way. Communication is indeed very important in keeping connections. I did not only learn about him but also learned from him important values that I should consider - values that cannot be taught by a mother alone.
Even though fathers are fun to hang out with, not many of them are sympathetic. This is why they are mostly different from mothers. As a guy, they have that unspoken rule of being fixed with their emotions. They may not express themselves always, but at times they show it in ways girls are unaware of. They would love to cuddle their little girls, to annoy, and at most times to be over protective. Their controlling behavior is just a way of showing us how much they care.
Fathers may be known to be strict and not as gentle as most mothers are, but that doesn't mean that they care less acknowledged in parenting, they still play an important role in a child's development. It does not matter who did best, what matters is how everything turned out to be. They provide us with our basic needs to the fullest of their capability, even if it means doing crime, or risking their life, just to provide and make their family happy. Their sacrifices are more valuable than the material things they can buy. They don't just make money, but strive to make a home. A father is someone who will remain strong when everyone else loses hope.
Papa, Daddy, Tatay, Papu, Itay, Ama, Dada; whichever one you call him, he will always watch out for his princess.
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P.S.
I lose my Papa a month after my debut and it hurts, so much!!! I almost hate God for it. But I learned to ACCEPT everything because I know, God has a reason why it happened.
xoxo,
Sheena <3
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